'I Do' Diligence
New York, New York
November, 2005
Janey Ahn and Joshua Rand didn’t meet under the most glamorous circumstances: the two young lawyers were thrown together in Washington D.C., for five days, slaving away over mounds of paper to conduct due diligence on a "big deal."
At the end of their first 18-hour work day, Josh asked Janey if she wanted to join him for dinner. He admits that he didn’t so much want her company as her permission to leave, since she was the senior associate.
This surprise, Janey agreed to join him, and a friendship was born. "It was an awful trip," said Janey, "but we really clicked and had a great time."
Nearly two years later, Josh bought a ring and debated about the best way to propose. I thought an opportunity would present itself to do something majestic and outlandish and dramatic, said Josh. Instead, Josh grew impatient, and wound up asking Janey to marry him in the couple's own bedroom.
"I’d been away for two weeks," recalled Janey, "and we'd never been apart before for that long. After going out to dinner, I was half-asleep at home and didn’t even notice at first that he was on his knee."
The 'due diligence' for the couple's wedding was more pleasant than their first assignment together. Josh remembered a party he'd attended at the Angel Orensanz Foundation's Center for the Arts, on New York's Lower East Side; modeled after a grand cathedral, the dramatic neo-Gothic building which had been a synagogue at one time -- proved a unique backdrop for a Conservative Jewish ceremony.
The night before the wedding, the couple honored Janey's Korean ancestry with a traditional "pyebaek" ceremony. Garbed in ceremonial robes, Janey and Josh took part in an ancient wine ritual, accepting tokens of money and good wishes from their parents and catching chestnuts and dates thrown as a blessing. The ceremony ended traditionally, with Janey jumping on Josh's back, "but we headed to the bar instead of him whisking me away," she said.
The next day, the couple took their place under a dramatic chuppah of mossy green hanging amaranthus and colorful flowers. "I was so proud of our parents because they didn't really know what to expect on either side," said Josh. But they were all spellbound by both the ceremonies.
Afterwards, as guests mingled on the mezzanine for the cocktail hour, plush, red-velvet drapery hid the downstairs as it was transformed into an exotic venue for dinner and dancing. Tables were set with green dupioni silk tablecloths topped with tall centerpieces of candles, amaranthus, and masses of bright red, pink, and green flowers and fruits.
"Our taste is funky and colorful," said Janey, "and our wedding planner and florist came up with wonderful ideas to create the mood of fun luxury" nothing more so than a stunningly bejeweled five-tier cake in greens and pale purple.
After taking a week to rest, the couple continued their immersion in different cultures by heading to India and the Maldives for a three-week honeymoon.

