A Public Proposal
San Francisco, California
August, 2006
While at a large New Years Eve party, Milly Hom thought Jason Fong was a bit odd when he came up and introduced himself for the second time. We had met earlier in the evening, so I just said, Nice meeting you again, says Milly. The three Fong brothers, who closely resemble each other, get that reaction all the time. It was actually Jason's older brother whom Milly had met earlier.
After graduating college, Milly began to spend time with a large group of friends, which included Jason. Since Jason and I have this thing for coffee, we got everyone together for Friday coffee nights, Milly explains, and that turned into coffee for two.
A year later, a cousin convinced Jason it was time to ask Milly out on a real date. It was just a movie and a snack, but we literally forgot how to talk and act with each other, says Milly. Despite the initial awkwardness, their attraction was undeniable, and they soon became a couple.
Nine soul-searching months later, on the night before his big 27th birthday party, Jason concluded that Milly was the one. My mom offered me encouragement and the ring my grandfather used to propose to my grandmother. I ran across town to ask Milly's father for his permission, Jason explains. When he stood up at the party, Milly thought he was going to thank the guests for coming. Instead, he got down on one knee and surprised her with a public proposal.
With dozens of friends and two large families, the couple needed a place that would comfortably accommodate 450 people, 11 bridesmaids, 11 groomsmen, five flower girls and a ring bearer. They chose the elegantly-restored San Francisco City Hall with its huge rotunda, magnificent marble stairway, and breathtaking architecture. One of the brides favorite moments of the night was gliding down the stairway on the arm of her father to music from a string quartet. I felt like I was in a fairy tale, Milly says.
To honor their Chinese heritage, Milly became a quick-change artist at the wedding. She was married in her white beaded strapless gown with heart-shaped neckline and then changed into a traditional Chinese gown for a tea ceremony where the couple paid tribute to their elders. Next, it was time to don a cheongsam in red, the Chinese color for good luck. In this outfit, Milly watched the ceremonial dancing lion that unfurled banners wishing them long life, happiness and good fortune. She was spared one final change due to lack of time.
Jason, a graphic designer, who was responsible for the invitations, programs, favors and bold geometric pattern on the cake, says he has never been so nervous in his life. There were so many pockets of emotion all night. I was glad my parents and grandparents were there to keep me calm, he confides.
For a couple with an extremely busy life that revolves around a steady stream of activities with family and friends, the honeymoon was a nice change of pace. The 12-day European cruise followed by tours of Paris and Zurich was a time to indulge in togetherness. It was probably the first time wed had more than three days in a row just for ourselves, says Jason, who savored the experience and is looking forward to more of the same in the future.











